Most of us have experienced rejection in one form or another. It could be parental rejection experienced as a child or being turned down by a person whom we have adored. We also face work life rejection when we rush from one job interview to the other.
No matter how much self- faith and positive attitude we carry in life, being rejected can be emotionally painful. Rejection often causes anxiety, stress, panic and even emotional aloofness.
What is Rejection?
In simple words, rejection can be defined as the act of not giving someone the love and attention they want and expect. It conveys a message that the person is not needed, valued or worthy of receiving affection/attention. Research suggests that when such experiences of rejection extend over a long period of time (especially in childhood), they are capable of creating a trauma affecting the psychological development of the child.
Experiencing rejection is painful because it puts us under scrutiny and makes us mull over the faith we have in our own selves. Criticism and self-defeating thoughts can color our perspective following a critical comment. The need for affiliation and connect is a strong human desire that tracks back to many centuries. In order to be a part of ones tribe man resorted to measures of peer pressure, flattery, compliance and betting ones prized possession just to prevent repudiation at any cost. Therefore, when we are rejected we are deprived of a chance to belong to a certain group we wish to be a part of.